How Cognitive Behavioural Therapy can help with dating
by Tony Freeman
CBT Therapist
Wednesday, 28th October 2009
Are you:
- Shy, lacking in confidence, with low self esteem
- Suffering high anxiety
- Finding dating difficult
- Concerned about sex
- Alone and unable to find a partner
- Attracting unsuitable partners
I can help you defeat anxiety and overcome personal issues that are preventing you from succeeding at dating.
The methods I use are grounded in proven, easily learned CBT - cognitive-behavioural techniques.
Shyness
Low Self Esteem can be a painful and limiting condition that holds you back and prevents you from socialising and forming relationships. Shyness limits careers, relationships and social activity. Fear of rejection, criticism and focusing on one’s self is often due to past humiliation, criticism or family patterns of behaviour during the formative years.
Shy or unconfident people often tell themselves they should "Pull themselves together" or "Not to be so stupid", this often makes things worse. Insecurity affects top performers who avoid relationships, to students who never socialise during their entire student life.
In a relationship, insecurity can lead to jealousy and possessiveness which can drive a partner away.
Many fail to seek help, due to the fear and embarrassment of this condition. The solution is usually easier than people think. What seems an un-curable problem, suffered for years, can often be dealt with swiftly.
Those who receive CBT treatment experience a dramatically improved emotional state, a reduction in anxiety and stress, and an increase in confidence - within a relatively short space of time. This is achieved without the use of drugs that may have dangerous side effects.
Not sure how to behave on a date?
You will learn to; control anxiety and relax in situations in which you used to feel nervous; overcome beliefs that hold you back, deal with behaviours which show you in a bad light and learn social skills.
Relationships
Relationships can be a great source of happiness. They can also lead to pain, disappointment, guilt, rejection or loneliness. If you are suffering because of Relationship problems CBT can show you healthier patterns of relating, and help you overcome destructive patterns of behaviour.
CBT provides a safe and non-judgmental space to discuss your concerns. You will gain self-insight into patterns of relating and work towards making more informed choices and so more positive bonds with others.
I work with Individuals and Couples across a range of relationship concerns such as: break-ups, divorce, affairs, sexual difficulties, jealousy, commitment issues, poor communication, power imbalances, domestic violence, wedding/premarital counselling.
I can help you:
- Explore your relationship history
- Improve communication skills in relationships
- Learn healthier patterns of relating
Issues for Relationship Therapy
- Arguments & Conflict
- Commitment Issues
- Jealousy & Anger
- Separation & Divorce
- Extra-Marital Affairs
- Domestic Abuse
- Poor Communication
- Power Imbalances
- Sexual Problems
- Pre-Marital Counselling
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about the author
Tony Freeman has 30 years training and experience as a counsellor and he specialises in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. Read more about how Tony can help you with dating, relationship and other life issues at www.freemancbt.com
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