by The Single Filez
Monday, 12th March 2012
Music; it makes the world go around, right? Well, have you ever thought about how it ties into the dating process? I mean, is it a case of Bobby and Whitney’s ‘Something in Common’ or is it more a case of Paula Abdul’s ‘Opposites Attract’? Does someone’s music genre of choice determine your dating potential?
The reason I ask is because I am someone who LOVES music. I don’t just listen to music, I feel music. My Dad was a DJ in his younger days and my Mum is someone who still to this day continues to play music around the house (thanks to my teenage sister, Mum is in her mid-50s and loves rapper Drake). R&B, hip hop and at times, pop, have created the soundtrack to my life and it’s something that is very important to me. Without consciously thinking about it I’ve always gone for guys who feel the same way. In the past I’ve dated DJ’s, music producers and guys who, like me, can’t function without having music on in the background. Here’s the thing though… all the guys I have been involved with have the exact same music taste as me. It could be a coincidence but I’d go ahead and say that it’s because back in the day I used to meet guys in clubs and bars – usually on R&B/hip hop nights.
These days I don’t go out like I used to, ergo, I don’t meet men like I used to. Now that I’m dating online I’ve vowed to be more open minded with regards to the men that I meet. Obviously the sorts of guys I’ve been into previously aren’t working for me and I truly believe that if something isn’t working – change it.
So, last weekend I went on a date with a guy from Match.com who is into Kings of Leon and Kasabian; bands who I know are successful and who I’d heard of via work friends but nonetheless, bands who could walk past me on the street and I wouldn’t have a clue who they were. The surprising thing was we had fun. Different interests, different backgrounds, different lifestyle choices but still, we enjoyed each other’s company enough to plan another evening out. Whether or not our music tastes indicates too big a different in lifestyles for it to ever become anything serious, who knows? But for now, I’m keeping an open mind and going with the flow.
What about you - is it important for you to have music taste in common with a potential partner? Would music taste influence your decision on whether or not to date someone?
The Single Filez is a frank and honest blog that takes a look at the trials and tribulations of a thirty-something single woman living in London. The blog's author has never had a long term relationship, is crap at flirting and, for some reason, is always attracted to the wrong kind of men. Despite all of this, she still lives a fabulously fierce, accomplished and adventurous life and she never lets being alone stop her from doing whatever it is she wants to do. Having truly enjoyed being single to the absolute fullest, when it's all said and done, she'd really like a boyfriend now...
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